Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Interesting Follow-up on BAM two years later

Last week I was asked to talk to a 17 year old that was disrespecting his mother by ignoring her and talking back at her... What was interesting is that the Mom had been through BAM two years earlier and had improved the relationship with the son up until recently. When I quizzed about the key issue it was over a report that was supposed to be turned in and because the teenager had not followed through the mother was furious. It really was interesting in that it fell into a specific criteria in BAM focused on allowing the son to make mistakes and forcing him to take responsibility for his actions. The Mom was very upset because it could have an affect on his entire future in college. Very legitimate concern; however, if the son does not take responsibility now...how many young men drop out of college? How many young men fail to keep a job? How many young men fail to follow through in a marriage? It is extremely difficult to watch young people make mistakes but we can not live their lives for them if they are ever going to grow and decide for themselves that THEY WANT to succeed. Failure is often what it takes to help motivate that young boy to become a man.

Book Censorship

As an author of over 15 books on Amazon - book Censorship always gets my attention when it is in the press. The answer the public library offers is to ask your children what they are reading...the person making that recommendation must either be naive or not have children :) since when do our children tell us about the bad things they are reading or watching online? I have instituted a "Parents Page" with my books that informs parents of subject matter so they can determine if they want the child to read the book. I have been censored from one church because a 18 year old in the story is dreaming of a girl in a bikini on a white beach...their religion believes bikinis are of the devil so they banned it...that should be their right and I respect that. That is the same reason the yellow banner serves as a warning that my books are Pro-Jesus; to be fair to the parents that do not want their children to read books with Christians seen in a positive light. Authors should take the responsibility to have a information page specifically for parents describing their view point on content if they want parents to trust what the child is reading. I wonder what many parents would have done if they understood The Hunger Games from a view point page.

Tuesday, November 5, 2013

Recent Gun Violence by Young Men

We are seeing more and more violence by young men which the media focus moves to guns and drugs...both are symptoms not the root of the problem. When young men feel hopeless it starts a process of depression which is what we are really dealing with. This is labeled a disease and if you study how thoughts in the brain trigger chemicals in our bodies it does become a disease. Treating it with more chemicals seems to be the medical worlds answer...what about taking the time to work with the young men in helping their thinking process?