When mom tells her teenage son to do something she expects an affirmation...doesn't always happen though does it?
This creates frustration - however we learned from BAMtime that he is passive aggressively being rebellious to make the point that "mommy" isn't his boss anymore; he's his own man and wants to prove it.
Ever notice that he eventually will get up and do what you asked?
Now we have to look at the big picture.
- He is trying to become his own man = and that is something we want or he'll never be able to stand on his own feet and create his own life.
- But we still need him to do what we asked.
Tell him what needs to be done. But don't expect an affirmation from him that he's going to do it. If you know he heard you then give him time to do it.
If he doesn't; then you work boundaries and consequences, but patients here can accomplish both.
Try it and give some comments.