Friday, November 28, 2014
5 facts about your child's brain), part of the learning process needs movement and interaction with a three dimensional world. The brain learns by repetition, this means the more time we spend in one activity, the better we get at it. So how much time we are spending on one or another item, as a child, is going to have a great effect on the rest of our lives. So the tablet as a tools is not a bad thing unless we allow it too much time. A time limit should always be set on any particular activity a child is doing, to encourage other forms of input. This includes Television and even those areas of play we consider positive elements such as exercise. Balancing time is an important part of our adult lives, that can be taught to a child, with the tools we have, including the use of tablets. Links on how the brain learns
Thursday, June 26, 2014
One of the best tools I've seen recently working is a Behavior Chart. This is a chart a mother and father use whenever the child is going out of check. When a child is reacting improperly or having a tantrum or arguing; instead of reacting to that with emotion on top of their emotion, the parent walks over and charts the behavior and states, "we will discuss this when you calm down." It is so powerful in that instead of feeding more into the argument, it deflates it. It also becomes a way of tracking that can be rewarded When good behavior, such as taking the trash out without having to be told, happens that too is charted. This is a testament that the child looks at every day. Something they can not really deny because it has been recorded. It is important that it is done in a way that does not create bitterness. The chart should be facts, not red ink type of punishment that the child feels they can never be forgiven of. The ability to erase the offense should be an option. Take time to really think about how you want to use the tool. If a tool is introduced and the rules are changed after the fact, you will take away the power of the tool and develop a child that doesn't believe you live up to your word. The other thing to consider is using a chart to track food behavior, in the teenagers case specifically, energy drinks. This and a lack of sleep are so often the real problem creating the outburst. If you track their sleeping habits and how they eat on a chart that you can point out one is effecting the other chart. You have will have a power tool to help them realize for life how food and sleep can affect their lives. I love good BAM Mom Tools and this is certainly one of them, here is a link to some pre-made charts.
Saturday, June 14, 2014
Wednesday, June 11, 2014
We have all done it; used food as a tool to get a child to do what we want. The ice cream reward system as to be as old as ice cream itself. However, as a "Mom Tool", should this really be used? The answer honestly has to be no, as we enter in such a era of obese boys. But what tool do you now substitute if that has been something you started when he was very young? Remember the video talking about male ego and the male's desire to be "grown up". You can reverse this very easily by using MOM TOOLS such as, "you're too grown up to need ice cream to do what you know is right". Never underestimate the power of that tool. They will respond with, "No I'm not." But the truth is you just put a new positive motivator that will grow in that young man's mind for the rest of his life. When he uses food as reward for himself a seed has been planted telling him that is for children and not a man. That is key to helping him get on a healthy path when it comes to food. Just because he argues doesn't mean you should give up. You can jokingly say, "Okay, if you're still a little boy I guess we can get that ice cream." Trust the tools, he'll eventually wean himself off that crutch.